How do you know when it’s the right time to move on with your life? Sometimes you don’t and that’s what drives you crazy.
How many times have you stayed in a relationship knowing you should have left but something kept you there? Then when it ended you kicked yourself in the butt for staying longer than you had too!
If you really want to know what’s going on just pause for a few minutes and ask yourself, “What am I afraid of? What is it that I fear will happen if I leave?”
You may think you’re staying for love but the truth is fear is controlling your life and you feel “comfortable” staying where you are instead of stepping out and walking away! Fear has a way of keeping you where you don’t want to stay!
Let me give you an example. A person who says, “I don’t like change” is an individual who is afraid. But afraid of what? The person is afraid of the “uknown.”
Now I’m not saying married people should get up and leave each other. What I’m saying is to be honest with you…be honest with your reasons for staying when you know you want to leave.
How can you possibly work on a relationship or marriage if you are not honest with you? Everything around you will crumble and fall apart.
Take a good, hard, long look at your life. Is it the life you desire? If not, there’s a good chance you have, and are still lying, to yourself!
Here’s an example of lies: “I know he doesn’t spend enough time with me but at least he takes care of me financially” or “I know he can’t keep a job but he is so sweet and helps me around the house sometimes.”
If you were honest with yourself you would say, “I need a man who wants to spend time with me. If he can’t do that then we will have problems” or “I need a man who can keep a job and be responsible as well as consistently help me around the house. If he can’t do that then we will have problems.”
But what you do is accept pretty much anyone who come your way hoping things will get better! You’ve been down that road before and know the end result!
Now we are back to the question, “When Is the right time to move forward with your life?” It’s simple…if you are married you must work through your issues unless the individual is abusing you mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually or has committed adultrey.
If you are in a relationship and not married you do not have to work anything out. I don’t care if you had a child by the man you can still leave. It won’t be easy but you will be happier in the long run.
Stay if you like but don’t complain to me or anyone else for your inability to take control of your life. If you want a different outcome then make a change. Otherwise, shut up and stop complaining because I, and those around you, don’t want to hear it! It all could have been avoided if you were honest with yourself!
Until next time!